Friends With All the Benefits!

Strange is it how relations are,

takes years to bond with siblings

but seconds are enough to know you,

and enjoy the naive beginnings!

                                                      No veils, no qualms, no tantrums to show

                                                      just some freaking stupidity and craziness

                                                      You're there all through rain and shine,

                                                      In highs and lows, in peace or mess!

Together always we cry for moon

and laugh out loud when light goes off,

no matter what our flights aim for,

we share the same runway and take-off!

                                                      My front shows resilience, you know what's within

                                                      world knows me insipid, with you I am brazen,

                                                      you are the one pocketing insult for me anyday

                                                      if I walk through my hard times, YOU are the reason!

Our blood might not match mate,

neither you belong to my family

but you are the one I can vouch for,

and be myself with total insanity!

                                                     Life may show us different ways someday,

                                                     but things won't change, contacts won't break

                                                     and as for remembering one another is concerned,

                                                     no day is needed, for friendship's sake!! 

When you say you are 'Committed', do you mean it?

These days, from a 6^th standard girl going out with her classmate to a 27 year old guy in a relationship with a similar age girl, all have one thing in common. They are 'committed'.

How else can we make a joke out of this word?

Half of the young population seriously needs to get clear over the difference between these 3 words-- Dating, Passing affair and a Commitment.

Reason?

Well, one of my old classmates told me that she recently broke up with a guy she was committed to since last 2 months. Sure, 2 months is a long enough time to call it a commitment. I could atleast call my crush my girlfriend by that logic, can’t I?

It IS a big deal. Playing around with such serious words has become very common, and it's very hurting to hear people say –“I have been committed 5 times in 4 years of my college.” Damn it. That's not a commitment. That's dating or a passing affair or maybe just a one night stand. It can be any non -serious link up but not a commitment.

Dating someone means trying to know them in order to decide whether you can be in a long term relationship with them or not. A passing affair means going out with someone knowing it won't (and it doesn't has to) last for long. But nowadays, dating someone means you are committed, having a passing affair is also a commitment and commitment is also a commitment.

Another interesting trend that is being followed since a very long time is that of girlfriend-boyfriend. Just because some stupid person many years back used these words for someone who you may seriously be in love with, it has become practically impossible for me to say that a girl, who is my friend, is my girlfriend. It is not a harmless thing to say, given I will have 20+ girlfriends then, the serious ones!  ;) Am I sounding like a 5^th grade wailing kid to you?  BINGO! I am talking about people like you here!

It is a democratic country, and everyone has a right to say whatever they want to. Moreover, I have a lot of respect for all the serious couples out there, but I really want SOME people to stop making fun of these serious terms in order to make their petty link-ups sound classy.

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I know there might be difference of opinion here, and a negative feedback is also welcome!

Not all is Your's, spare this one!!

All go gaga over this one,

reason this illusion or question this one

start to end with no exception, 

this pleasure of souls has spared no one!

It works a different way, for few

and those are the one's who fly aboard

ahead of those who pluck a rose,

sit on the knee and propose!

Triumph in love is an ordeal,

along the cultures, across the oceans

crush it away or live with it,

or be a monomaniac for your devotion!

Whatever you do, wherever you live

a drop of their tear will trigger your cry,

while just a look can make your day,

their little pain can make you die!

Let go away if you have the heart,

to make them turn and be your part,

or else your lives will show the way

and someday you will be miles apart,

not just by distance, but by hearts!

Worthy they may not be enough,

of all the bliss you shower them with

be happy to give it all away,

for you it's truth, for themm just a myth!

Still be happy, you've gained respect,

if not from world, from yourself

the road might not be lit up today,

but love shows way, and yes, it helps!!

How Girls marry 'Google' in India!

India is a country where a guy, who no girl gives a second good look during college, after being placed in 'Facebook', is chased by the same girls' parents in family functions.

Families of some girls are obsessed with finding a guy who is less of a guy and more of a techno-corporate minting dollars and has a brand name of 'Microsoft' or 'Google' in addition to his surname. Seems like the girl's marrying Google. Now how cool is that!

As I have observed, as soon as a boy gets a job in any tremendously popular multinational firm, the girls' parents, without even looking at the guy (leave apart meeting him personally) assume that if he and his family agree, they would give away their daughter in their house. Wow!

Here's why the concept of Reacher-settler arises. Even if this level of desperation arises among some girls' parents out of a concern for their daughters, it's stupid to think that happiness of their daughter is based on the future career prospects of a guy and nothing else. The girl's side behaves as a desperate reacher, the guy's family start behaving as if they are settling for them and hence have an edge over them everywhere. Naturally, if you show someone you are desperate, they'll try and take advantage. (atleast in some cases if not all, and I know it's wrong, but then it's true)

A major consequence of above is 'Dowry'.I agree there are many cases where dowry is actually demanded, but in many more cases, it's given away happily by the bride's side. It is like an epidemic. If Mr Shukla has given a Swift, we'll give a Honda city. So of course there will be Honda city in discussion in every household marriage fixing ceremonies around in the neighborhood. If Mrs. Khanna is all ready to give away half of her husband's fortune to wed off her daughter so that her daughter has a comfortable life and has a say in the house she's going to be, there's nothing that can be done to change it.

Then why always blame the boy's side? If you think this is not the case always, you are right. But if you think 'Dowry system' is grooms' side fault always, you are wrong.

Change here is a two way process. While everyone, on the drop of the hat blames the boy's side for being arrogant and demanding, the other side is relatively very less or just not talked about. Family of girls are treated as if they are some helpless victims falling prey to bad people who'll exploit their daughter. In some cases, as I said, yes they are. In others, they are the culprit. It's wrong for a guy's family to treat a girl badly, but think of who indirectly gave them a ticket for treating her like this?

No one realizes that it's a girl getting married to a boy. I want to say just one thing to all such parents- “Nothing else should matter, and no one is doing an 'ehsaan' by accepting your daughter, so please stop throwing her on them along with money and dowry. Rather, give her away with dignity letting them know it's a marriage and not a business proposal. A good guy is not always the one placed in Facebook. He can be out there working in Wipro or TCS too, probably even more handsome than Mr. Google. You do need to see the guy and not his certificates only.”

I know many won't agree, but it's fine. Everyone has their own opinions and there are always two sides to a coin.