A guy rapes a girl and maybe gets a bail, but a girl abuses
a guy publicly and he’s not allowed to abuse back as there would be at least 10
people to stand by her side, even when her argument is pointless. Furthermore,
the guy is responsible for the argument. End of the story. As a recent case in a bus in Pune very aptly
depicted, a guy offering his seat to a girl paid a heavy price by getting a
slap on his face just because he is a guy. Even more interesting, no one in that
crowded bus told the girl that just because she is having female reproductive
organs in her body doesn’t give her a right to slap any guy for anything. Such
girls are probably the reason, sadly, that people forget cases like the one of Nirbhaya
very easily. And even when they do remember, the price is sometimes paid by
innocent guys. If guys who rape set bad examples, girls like those in above
case do that too. We are stuck at one single point.
The reason lies in roots of the stereotypes we have in our
minds. Indian mentality has got rotten due to the acid of stereotypes. It is a
society where stereotypes have made it difficult for people to do (and even
more importantly, to NOT do) what they like to or dislike. It is a society
where a guy is expected to like riding bikes and/or cars and somehow, a
disgusted look comes on face of most people when a guy says I don’t know how to
ride a bike. Big deal, he can run 10 km non-stop, what many bikers can’t do
without their bikes. He may be able to do many other things that are enough to
prove his manliness (which, in fact, is not a thing to be proven to everyone!)
Ours is a society where girls are expected (if not made to)
to know how to cook. A pitiful expression comes on face of people learning that
a girl doesn’t know how to cook. ‘Poor thing, how will she ever get married’ is
what comes to their mind. Little do they know that the girl might know how to
kick their own son in his balls!
People in India just claim to have moved on. Not many have changed
except a handful. Modernization is still limited to using gadgets and high rise
buildings. While some females do not get their basic rights, some go on using
feminism as a tool to harass males. While some say females do not watch WWE/
Football, some still think males in kitchen are pets of their wives.
Its high time some people retrospect and realize. We’ve to
go much beyond this stupid mentality.
When it comes to eliminating the
difference between males and females, a lot still needs to be done. A lot!
