Please define the word 'Religion' for me!

One of my friends shared her experience with the so called ‘Religious followers of god’ a few days back, which reinforced my faith in the fact that India is still full of people whose so called religious sentiments are weaker than a burnt twig!

This incident took place in Delhi (sadly it’s Delhi, but then, it’s not just about this place. The issue cuts all the state boundaries but only reaches the border of our country) The ‘Kanwaria’ procession is quite famous in North India, obviously for the immense faith put in by the people who travel so long to prove how much they value god. More famous in Delhi for the 2-3 km long traffic jams it causes and the innumerable missed appointments, classes and probably loss of lives because of it. But shhhh…. The government might read it. I am lucky that I am not a famous blogger; else I would be put behind bars for writing this truth. That’s how it works- Religion it is!

My friend was driving to college for her evening class. While the kanwarias were walking on the side of road, a few of them were standing in the middle of the road, blocking it for the vehicles that would otherwise pass by easily. All of them had rods in their hands. After waiting for good 5 minutes or so for them to move, all in vain, my friend, in inverted commas, “Made a mistake of honking slightly, once” to ask those illiterate people to give her way on the road for which she pay taxes regularly and on which, those people have no right to stand aimlessly in the name of god. The strong believers of god rushed to her car, and in no time, surrounded it and started banging the rods on the window panes until one of them broke. If you are still reading, please note that all this happened in broad daylight in presence of at least 20 vehicles just around and no single person coming to help her. But that’s not the point anyways. The point here is that even after all this happened, and with great difficulty when she managed to escape the scene by her presence of mind, all that the police people 200 meters away could say to her was “Madam aap to nikal jao, hum dekh lenge”. Yeah sure, we have grown up to see how the police ‘sees to it’ in India!.

It is ridiculous that while on one hand people in India are going crazy about beef ban and digitalization through changing Facebook DPs, they still are very much fine with waiting for 2 hours in traffic for absolutely no reason other than the shit thrown in their face in the name of religion. Everyone is frustrated, everyone has suffered, but they forget after 2-3 hours and move on. No one discusses these things. I may have gone just a little step ahead to write about it, but then even I stop here. Some people may empathize, some may sympathize with such incidents. It’s all in vain if there’s no thought in someone’s mind wherein the government would be forced to take law and order out of the hands of people who claim to be god-lovers and make sure it’s handed over to those responsible people who believe in it and do not use it as a cheap tool to show their frustration and fulfill their whimsical fancies!

Turn Me Down, It Turns Me On!

Goes perfectly for the case when a beautiful girl turns down a guy, who thinks it is even more exciting to get her then.

Well, not talking about that here. :)

Of all those things that have come my way till now in life, the bad ones are those which I was not able to achieve. The good ones were those which I was able to crack. Probably the best ones were those which held my neck and banged it into unfathomable depth of failure, depression and most importantly, learning.

Needless to say, and as per basic human nature, failing hurts. Badly. I remember times when people have not trusted me, or not considered me competent enough to do a certain thing. I hate those times. But at some level, if today I do not care what people say or do to me, it’s because of those non trusting people. As they say, the worst of people teach you the best of lessons. Well, I am a learner, and a persistent one at that!

There sure have been, and will be times when people and opportunities will turn me down. Rejection and failure will take away a lot, but at the end of the day, they’ll all make me want to get more out of them. I’ll be always attracted to things that reject me. So whether or not I conquer them, it would be a pleasure being turned on at least! 

A Funny Society- Indian Society

A guy rapes a girl and maybe gets a bail, but a girl abuses a guy publicly and he’s not allowed to abuse back as there would be at least 10 people to stand by her side, even when her argument is pointless. Furthermore, the guy is responsible for the argument. End of the story.  As a recent case in a bus in Pune very aptly depicted, a guy offering his seat to a girl paid a heavy price by getting a slap on his face just because he is a guy. Even more interesting, no one in that crowded bus told the girl that just because she is having female reproductive organs in her body doesn’t give her a right to slap any guy for anything. Such girls are probably the reason, sadly, that people forget cases like the one of Nirbhaya very easily. And even when they do remember, the price is sometimes paid by innocent guys. If guys who rape set bad examples, girls like those in above case do that too. We are stuck at one single point.

The reason lies in roots of the stereotypes we have in our minds. Indian mentality has got rotten due to the acid of stereotypes. It is a society where stereotypes have made it difficult for people to do (and even more importantly, to NOT do) what they like to or dislike. It is a society where a guy is expected to like riding bikes and/or cars and somehow, a disgusted look comes on face of most people when a guy says I don’t know how to ride a bike. Big deal, he can run 10 km non-stop, what many bikers can’t do without their bikes. He may be able to do many other things that are enough to prove his manliness (which, in fact, is not a thing to be proven to everyone!)

Ours is a society where girls are expected (if not made to) to know how to cook. A pitiful expression comes on face of people learning that a girl doesn’t know how to cook. ‘Poor thing, how will she ever get married’ is what comes to their mind. Little do they know that the girl might know how to kick their own son in his balls!

People in India just claim to have moved on. Not many have changed except a handful. Modernization is still limited to using gadgets and high rise buildings. While some females do not get their basic rights, some go on using feminism as a tool to harass males. While some say females do not watch WWE/ Football, some still think males in kitchen are pets of their wives.

Its high time some people retrospect and realize. We’ve to go much beyond this stupid mentality. 

When it comes to eliminating the difference between males and females, a lot still needs to be done. A lot!